Survived the 1st week

So I just started at my new job and I have gone through being anxious about getting a job to being nervous I was going to mess up the interview to being impatient they wouldn’t call me back.

I got called back and I started at my job on Monday. I came into the office and met with the person I would be taking over the position from and she’s been a blessing to me. She’s super patient, kind, and very good at teaching things that are complex and making them seem simple.

The training has been both fun and quite serious as that’s what the position calls for depending on the season and situation. You have to be the neutral space at the office between staff and clients.

It’s been overwhelming also but that has made me want to get it right and succeed even more. I believe there’s a reason I am there at this point in my life and I pray I learn what it is. I also hope I make a positive impact and change there, improving on what my predecessor has done.

So far so good.

Tell me about when you started your job or at a new place. Any advice on working for and with women?

Are Your Resolutions Working?

 

March is the 3rd month in the year and most of us started 2018 with a resolution or 100 of them if my guess is right. If you’ve kept even one of the resolutions you made at the start of the year, then Bravo! And kudos to you. Because as it turns out, a lot of us don’t even make it pass the first couple days of making them. As it turns out, new year resolutions became popular after the great depression and though a lot of people make them, not everyone keeps them.
Actually, more than half of the people who make resolutions fail in keeping the resolutions they make within the first couple of months in the new year. It’s not because they were not resolute enough or that they didn’t believe in their resolutions, it’s mainly because some resolutions are unrealistic, made as a self motivation tactic or totally not well thought out. Most people lose the feeling they had at the start of the year that prompted the resolution in the first place. The motivation might be gone, they might be feeling defeated due to lack of visible results, impossible goals were set or they totally forgot and abandoned said resolutions before February the 28th.

So to make your resolutions work, you need to change your mentality. Rewire your brain of sorts. Change your resolutions to goals and make them achievable.

Work on them one at a time and not several at a time.

For example:-
Weightless
Exercise
Stop smoking
Debt management
Better money management
Relationship improvement or dissolving
Diet Etc.

Even though its March, you can still work at achieving your goals and making them work. its never to late.

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Things That Have Made Me Happy This Month.

As most of you know, I just started blogging again. So blogging is definitely on the list of things that have made me very happy this month and I can’t wait to share more of myself, lessons learned, crafts, stories,  tips, DIY,  lifestyle and relationship tips to help you grow as an individual, blogger or business.

1.My Marriage.

A lot of people wonder how my husband and I do it, they always ask me questions on how we manage or cope with the distance and time apart. There are a ton of Ldr tips and advice that I have shared on my blog and that others have shared, but as with everything in life, you need to find what works for you. And that’s what my husband and I have done.  Anyone who knows my husband or I, knows that we spend a lot of time in communication. We call one another several times in a day, text, chat, email, video call one another and support one another with work and business also. It’s very important to keep up with your spouse and communicate effectively, plus you need a large dose of patience to be in a relationship and drum ”fulls” to be in an LDR.

Below are links to some tips, experiences, growth  and struggles that can help you in your LDR.

Ldr posts

sometimes it hurts and I write about it also. can you?

Some Poetry I wrote to help me cope and they might help you too or encourage you to write about it. ldr poems  A couple more ldr poems .

2.Family.

It’s been a joy visiting with family this month. I am one of those people who love seeing new places but never actually likes the process of going there. Well this applies to old places too. I love the idea of being somewhere, but I don’t actually want to get off my behind, sit in a car, train, ship, plane or even bike to get there. But if you ask me if I love to travel I would say yes! because my brain is interpreting it as an opportunity to see or be in a different or new place. So yes going to visit my family makes me very happy.

1. Being part of a healthy discussion.

I love stimulating conversations and this month I have enjoyed being part of various such discussions. Because of a game I play, I have gotten to meet and enjoy chatting with a group of really awesome ladies and a young man. They are funny, smart, amazing and magical in their own way. Though a game brought us together, It’s grown to something resembling sisterhood instead. I am grateful for them and they make me happy too.

4.New Projects.

My friend and I are currently working on something that I shall be introducing you all to very soon, and working on this has got me all shades of emotional lol; Joy, laughter, annoyance, frustration (new things and the frustrations they bring) , happiness etc. This project has taught me a lot about myself and I am happy with the results. I have learned that I am patient, resourceful, resilient and very smart.

1. Running My Business.

Making money isnt always easy or direct. It can be a rollercoaster of disappointments, hurt, anger, loss, gain and other things especially when you are just starting out. So be patient and keep moving because quitting isnt going to take you to your desired goal. And yet running my own business albiet very small and not always rewarding financially has its perks and I am enjoying them immensely. This makes me happy.

Through out the Month of February, there are so many experiences that I can draw on that have made me happy, but this will do for now. I just wanted to share a little part of my month with you and how some of these things have changed my life. This month might have not seemed all that great to you, but if you also take some time out to make a list of the good and happy times, you’ll be surprised to find out that its not as short as you think.

Take a moment to share the things that made you happy with me in the comment section below  😁☺😁

 

 

REKINDLING MY LOVE AND FINDING PURPOSE.

I have always loved writing. Growing up I was that child who talked a lot, sang a lot, wrote long essays, laughed a lot and made friends easily. But as I grew older, I still talked a lot but in doses and in select company. My writing grew into something I didn’t even know I had in me. I still sing and laugh and do all the stuff I enjoy doing, but not as often. My heart cries out from the need to write and express myself and yet I pick up the pen and talk myself out of it or draw a blank once pen hits paper.

And on the issue of friendships, I seem to have drifted away from them and sort of isolated myself. sometimes I miss it, sometimes I do not. yes it would be nice to have someone to hang out with and do stuff with but most of my friends do not live in the same city as I do and I haven’t particularly gone out of my way to make more. I guess sometimes I feel the efforts all on my side. Though I have never been the lonely type, so I am glad for that at least.

Alas, this post is about finding myself, purpose and love for the things I enjoy doing. I have started writing again and I am so happy about that. I have also started blogging again and not just posting pictures of my crafts and DIY which is something I am happy about. But the thing I am most happy about is making money doing the things I love.

I am being paid to write, create and develop content and also manage a couple social media pages. I never thought I would make money writing or blogging and yet it seems I am on my way to doing that and even more.

So I just want to encourage you to keep at it and never give up on your dreams. It might not look like it, but it’s there. You just have to keep on trying.

Honest To God Writing.

As I type in this title, all I can think about is take me back!

Take me back to a time my thoughts did not need ink to flow inebriated, when it just flowed down in a rush like a broken faucet.

Take me back to the time of deep depths and bottomless wells. where my words would race down on paper leaving me baffled as to their origin.

I wanna swim the un-clogged pipe where my poetry stroked and backstroke(d) diving unhinged and unapologetic into the minds of those who dared to read my nakedness.

Take me to a time where I cared so much about not caring what you thought of my broken silence, where my words were unashamed and fiercely present.

I miss the intimate sharing

the mind sharpening

The exposing of souls through more than ”just words”.

Take me back.

 

 

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It’s a new week Fam!

Happy Sunday and welcome to the new week. It’s technically still the first seven days in September and already Monday for me.

It’s already the 5th here and I am already torn about work. Excited and somewhat dreading it. I am sort of restless (that’s stating it mildly, ask my husband lol).

Everyone who knows me knows I am in need of constant stimulation and ways to keep entertained or just generally to stop my mind from wandering or me from day dreaming. 

This brings us back to work! I am a builder. I work construction(in a supervisory and Consulting capacity) as a boss lol. 

 I get excited going to site and being part of the bevy of activity but it is short lived because after a while it seems like just boring routine to me.

The problem with the office is that I have to sit still for long periods and behave myself and not move or fidget. Therein lies the issue. At this stage I want to blog or read or write or just plain move!! Even if it’s just a little bit (who I’m I kidding?! I want to move a whole lot lol!). 

I enjoy conversing with people that I like (lol who doesn’t?) I love books and generally entertainment. I like the outdoors in doses. And believe me I enjoy watching a building go up. You know, from concept to completion. it’s an amazing feeling.

But sometimes I end up wandering  if I chose the wrong career and studied the wrong thing?

Did I miss it somewhere? Or is it still going to make sense? 

Anyway I am definitely in for a short night. It’s already 1:10am.

Thank you blogosphere for letting me rant and think it out. 

Have an amazing week ahead!!! 😎😎😎😘