Not Culture Shock.

I am always looking out for things I might have missed since moving here. It is easy to have a preconceived idea about a place or people which is something I have come to realize a lot of people have about me ( Nigerians and Africans in general) and I have decided that rather than be offended, I guide as correct if it’s welcomed.

I am always surprised when people don’t expect me to speak fluent English or are surprised when I do and do it with a clear understandable accent.

I have come to learn the difference in culture also that’s can be seen here also in respect to race, age , religion or the lack of it and geographical location.

It’s been an eye opener for me and I am glad to have the opportunity to learn about the way of life of others.

Have you experienced culture shock recently or in the past? What was your experience and how did you deal with it?

When In Doubt.

It’s quite easy for me (us humans) to fall into doubt, either self doubt or doubt projected at someone else or something else. We go through the motions of believing, trusting and having faith in that person/ thing but the moment things start to deviate from the path or change we start to question everything (or ourselves).

I have learned that as much as I work on my faith in myself , people and spiritually, I still fall into the trap of doubt sometimes and it can be so subtle at times I don’t even realize it’s happening till I’ve fallen.

I don’t see myself as fickle and I like to self examine and take stock of my days, actions, choices and so forth and this is what I have chosen to work on at this stage.

So I tell myself, not everything in life is Constant but God is and so is His love for me. People will disappoint me and I also will disappoint them but that’s okay because no one is perfect and our mistakes do not define us. Learn from them, grow up and move on.

When the voice of doubt comes, choose to meditate on the good, on the positive , on the progress and on what’s working rather than the negative and what’s not working.

Give your self allowances to breathe. Life is about living not just existing so learn to experience life not just writing or reading about it.

I have realized that when I do these things that are positive and edify my soul, it drowns out the voice of doubt.

Book Review:- Happiness is all we want! By Ashutosh Mishra.

As far as self help books go, this one is well written and researched.

From the introduction at the start of each chapter to the tips at the last paragraph, the author carries you along by not only pointing out the problem, but providing the solution / possible solutions.

I like the break in between in the form of stories that prevent this book from being text book like and making it more relatable and practical.

A lot of self help books end up sounding abstract and unrealistic but this one goes beyond just telling you what’s wrong but showing you in this “modern age” how to tackle it and be happy.

However, I felt the book was target to only those with high drive work/ businesses unless of course they were only used as an example. Also some people with different views on meditation might not implement some of the meditation practices prescribed in the book.

Which is ok as I believe you can find ways to mediate that agree with your beliefs and way of life.

All in all this was a great read and I enjoyed it.

Seasons

This year has been a whirl of Ups and Downs but at long last I am finally where I am supposed to be. We go through seasons and each of them are geared to show and teach us something. Doesn’t mean the lessons will be easy, kind, good or even bearable but when we come through on the other side we end up forever changed. One thing to keep in mind is to ensure we come out the victor rather than letting the process break us.

Lessons On Waiting.

I always admire those who just exude patience from every pore. They are content to wait and never give up, doubt or challenge the process they are going through.
In comes me like a tiny fur ball bouncing with excitement and vibrating with energy. Wait you say? ‘erm’ how do I do that? every iota of my being is pushing for results, answers, movement! anything to show progress.
I consider myself a patient person, but its the act of being patient that I sometimes find tasking.I want to be that person who waits with grace and finesse but sometimes I end up a quivering mess of almost tears and loud questions mostly punctuated with ‘WHY!’ LOL (So much for elegance).

I am blessed to say that not many a great things have tested my faith to the point of doubt, anger or recanting it, and yet going through Long distance relationship for four years and then long distance marriage (not on purpose) for almost two years, I find myself left with a lot of questions and a niggling feeling of impatience. But of course everyone around me thinks I am a Champ and they always punctuate this feeling with comments of how amazed they are, how they couldn’t possibly do the same if the positions were reversed, how strong I am and how well I am doing.

However, all I want to say is no! I am actually not that strong, I am just being strong out of necessity, because I have to be strong. It’s a survival mechanism, because the moment I stop being strong, I will probably unravel and it will take a lot to put this ‘humptidonty’ back together again. My husband on the other hand I feel drew the short end of the stick, I get to still experience the things I love, be surrounded by family and friends and not have a lot of things change or be too lonely.While on the other hand he has friends turned family around him, but no actual relatives close by and even though he has had to go through a couple of lifestyle changes, he doesn’t have me around to help out as a partner should.

So, on the issue of waiting, I have come to conclude that though everyone’s process is different, and we all lead different lifestyles, still we ought to find what lessons life’s teaching us as we wait. It would be very sad to go through it not learning anything at all.

What lessons have you learned from waiting and what lifestyle changes did you have to make because of it?

Honest To God Writing.

As I type in this title, all I can think about is take me back!

Take me back to a time my thoughts did not need ink to flow inebriated, when it just flowed down in a rush like a broken faucet.

Take me back to the time of deep depths and bottomless wells. where my words would race down on paper leaving me baffled as to their origin.

I wanna swim the un-clogged pipe where my poetry stroked and backstroke(d) diving unhinged and unapologetic into the minds of those who dared to read my nakedness.

Take me to a time where I cared so much about not caring what you thought of my broken silence, where my words were unashamed and fiercely present.

I miss the intimate sharing

the mind sharpening

The exposing of souls through more than ”just words”.

Take me back.

 

 

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DIY kimono for Kids.

DIY Sewing project under way.

So I am currently working on this cute kimono for my 2 year old niece and believe me it’s easy but not easy at the same time lol.

So this is my first time handling a sewing machine all by myself and it’s amazing just seeing the stitches coming together and the various pieces falling into place but my stitches aren’t as neat as I had hoped lol

There’s a lot of rolling and twisting and had to deal with some bird nesting of the the bobbing thread also but all in all I feel quite accomplished for a first trial and pet project.

I will definitely show you guys the Finished result once I am done.

Don’t hesitate to share any sewing tips you might have with me. Thanks 🤗❤️😊😘

Is this love?

Let’s Get Personal 😎 ( I think my feature image is hilarious)

Hey guys!

So I am not one to get personal about myself/life/relationship etc on social media. I share and all, but I like to keep that side of me private (as much as I can).

But recently I have been feeling the urge to share and find people who are like me and going through the same things.

So this is sort of weird but we’ll see where it takes us. So a bunch of topics you will be seeing on this page henceforth along with everything else will be as diverse and sometimes unrelated as you can possibly imagine.

• I will be talking about the current recession that Nigeria is going through,
• My long distance relationship and Marriage,
• Dating (my limited experience lol)
• The pitfalls and iOS of log distance relationship and how to make it work
• Poetry and the need to find release
• Impending Immigrations,
• My need to have Yam when I move to be with my husband.                                         (not sweet potato, YAM!!!)
• The hope and fear of the big move (please feel free to share your immigration stories with me. Please 😥😥:'(😰😧 :mrgreen:)
• My NGO (the Dilemma of the  lost documents)
• Work and the search for greater things (is this all there is to life?)
• Weight loss and gain (the struggle.   with-in and with-out),
• Lessons
• Healthy eating and the temptation of late night eating.

Just generally my everyday life.

what I hope to gain and achieve is a better rapport with my followers and friends on the blogosphere.

Those with advice,questions or just interest in the topic or story of the day please so not hesitate to indicate by commenting.

Please read and comment. Ask questions and  help me on this journey of unburdening and growing through writing and sharing.

Thanks guys and don’t forget to connect on social media!!  😁:):):):).

Instagram-:- shulaices

Twitter-:- Sunes_is

Facebook-:- Sunesis Shuaibu

I look forward to meeting and connecting with everyone.

And please feel free to send me questions and issues you would like addressed.

Cheers!  😁

It’s a new week Fam!

Happy Sunday and welcome to the new week. It’s technically still the first seven days in September and already Monday for me.

It’s already the 5th here and I am already torn about work. Excited and somewhat dreading it. I am sort of restless (that’s stating it mildly, ask my husband lol).

Everyone who knows me knows I am in need of constant stimulation and ways to keep entertained or just generally to stop my mind from wandering or me from day dreaming. 

This brings us back to work! I am a builder. I work construction(in a supervisory and Consulting capacity) as a boss lol. 

 I get excited going to site and being part of the bevy of activity but it is short lived because after a while it seems like just boring routine to me.

The problem with the office is that I have to sit still for long periods and behave myself and not move or fidget. Therein lies the issue. At this stage I want to blog or read or write or just plain move!! Even if it’s just a little bit (who I’m I kidding?! I want to move a whole lot lol!). 

I enjoy conversing with people that I like (lol who doesn’t?) I love books and generally entertainment. I like the outdoors in doses. And believe me I enjoy watching a building go up. You know, from concept to completion. it’s an amazing feeling.

But sometimes I end up wandering  if I chose the wrong career and studied the wrong thing?

Did I miss it somewhere? Or is it still going to make sense? 

Anyway I am definitely in for a short night. It’s already 1:10am.

Thank you blogosphere for letting me rant and think it out. 

Have an amazing week ahead!!! 😎😎😎😘