Musings

Breakfast For Two

I love to cook for others not just myself. The pleasure comes from putting good, wholesome, home cooked meals in front of friends and family,watch them find satisfaction and even healing from it.

This meal 🥘 is easy, fast and requires little effort and ingredients to make.

To make the Noodles you’ll need:

Noodles of choice 🍝 🍲 🍜

Seasoning and Spices

Onions

Red Peppers 🌶 of two variety

Ginger

Black pepper

Ground Tomatoes 🍅

Cabbage

How to make:-

Boil noodles in a pot and strain in a colander when per-boiled.

While it strains,

Stir fry veggies 🍅 🌶 in a pan with olive oil and add cabbage and spices in and stir.

Add in noodles and let it cook together.

Voila your stir fried veggie noodle is ready to eat 😋.

Enjoy.

Let me know when you make it and how it turned out 🍜.

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Musings, Silence

The Suicide Epidemic (Contagion)

I love my husband very much (with the title above, I am most certain this isn’t the opening line you were expecting). But as I was saying, I love my husband very much and yet we don’t share an interest in the same type of reading materials most of the time. I tend to get away from being sucked into reading anything he’s picked up or even school assignments or papers he has to write because the material serves as a snooze button for me. But to be fair, its not that they are boring, its that I don’t have an interest in them. Although, I try my best to to help him out and also develop somewhat of an interest in the titles he is interested in and skim/read through a few of them. This was the case when I stumbled on something very interesting and quite serious that inspired this post.

I was helping my husband read through ‘The Tipping Point by Malcolm Caldwell’ (I love Malcolm Caldwell books by the way even though I haven’t read a lot) and I didn’t even know it was his book when I agreed to help (#goodwife). We split the book into chapters and I got chapters 7 & 8 which I grumbled at (because I felt I wouldn’t know what the book was about starting at the end) but I still went ahead and read them.

I have heard of suicides on international TV but nothing local here in Nigeria that I recall (not saying there aren’t any, just don’t recall any or on national news either). I have seen / heard on global/international news children , celebrities, the elderly, parents (adults) committing suicide and even though I felt sad and mourned the loss, I never understood it.

However, reading ‘The Tipping Point by Malcolm Caldwell’ opened up a new angle of suicides and the epidemic surrounding them especially in recent times. In the society I grew up in and religiously, they are frowned upon. I believe that even when a member of the community does commit suicide, it would probably be reported differently. Maybe an Illness, homicide, ”his or her village people attacked” or God is blamed for it. Rarely is mental illness  mentioned as opposed to the western culture I’ve observed online when its almost always a case of mental health when the cause /reason of death is suicide.

In this book, the suicide epidemic / contagion in the Island of Micronesia is brought up and used as a case study along with the death of celebrities like Marilyn Monroe and the rate of traffic accidents in relation to a highly publicized suicide. The research of ”David P Phillips” was used to explain this phenomenon of escalated suicide and traffic accidents right after a highly publicized suicide on TV or the newspapers. Below are snippets of his research not the whole thing because it isn’t my intellectual property, I will only post snippets and you can read the whole thing online.

This paper shows that suicides increase immediately after a suicide story has been publicized in the newspapers in Britain and in the United States,1947-1948. The more publicity devoted to a suicide story, the larger the rise in suicides there after.The rise in suicides after a story is restricted mainly to the area in which the story was publicized.Alternative explanations of these findings are examined; the evidence indicates that the rise in suicides is due to the influence of suggestion on suicide, an influence not previously demonstrated on the national level of suicides. The substantive, theoretical, and methodological implications of these findings are examined.

There was a reference to Marilyn Monroe’s death and its effect on the national suicide rate and how it rose to about 12 percent temporarily after the announcement of her death.

On the Micronesian suicide epidemic, read this article

HONOLULU, March 5— In the islands of Micronesia, young men are killing themselves at one of the highest rates in the world, researchers say, and no one knows what to do about it.

Suicides among males between the ages of 15 and 30 are so prevalent that they have become an accepted method of problem-solving in the island societies where harmony is highly prized, according to the Rev. Francis Hezel and Dr. Don Rubinstein.

”For several years suicide has been the No. 1 cause of death for youths in Truk,” said Father Hezel, a Jesuit who has served for nearly 18 years as director of Xavier High School in the Truk Islands, where the suicide rates are highest.

Father Hezel was the first person to notice the trend, in 1977, and he wrote a magazine article on the problem. Since then, he and Dr. Rubinstein, a researcher at Honolulu’s federally financed East-West Center, have collected many facts on the problem. But they do not yet have solutions, said Father Hezel, who is doing research in Honolulu as part of a year’s leave of absence.

Twice as High as in U.S.

…………………………………………….. read more on http://www.nytimes.com/1983/03/06/us/micronesia-s-male-suicide-rate-defies-solution.html

Finally, the purpose of this post is to share what I have learned, draw your attention to a different way of looking at suicides, what might be causing them and what are your thoughts on this issue and our communities.

I wasn’t going to write on this issue before because there is so much i don’t yet know or understand, but after hearing about the community in Ohio, I thought now would be the time to have a conversation about it, it might help someone.

Please share your thoughts in the comment section below

  • should suicides not be publicized anymore?
  • what are the best ways to announce suicides publicly i.e news and news papers?
  • can this epidemic/contagion be controlled or eradicated?
  • why do you think people do it?
  • why do teenagers especially with the example of males in Micronesia more prone to commit suicides?

And if you know someone going through something be sure to contact professional help.

Musings

Breathless.

 

My supply of creativity is emptying

You kissed me, sucked my words away.

It tingled as it left my fingers and sizzled with the loss in contact.

It licked through my pores and escaped through my mouth as I said the words back.

 

Dumb as a lamppost as I stand gazing at you with stars in my eyes

And the old me drooping through my lips and sense hanging out my dropped jaw.

 

I saw her you know; Sensibility

As she mournfully left me

A cold draft of air,

Many a shivers and the hold of doubts as they stare me down

questioning my sanity as I gaze at you with the moon on my lids.

You touch me and Mr. Doubt couldn’t run fast enough.

And warmth that swamped me to heal the frost resident on all vital organs.

 

You caught me http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=falling+gifs

Broke my fall and wrapped me in your warm embrace.

Your lips are sore from kissing my tears away

Your arms cramped from hugging me in your embrace.

 

I am never at a loss for what to say

yet you leave me speechless.

 

 

 

 

Musings

How do you react to news?

There’s always a knee jerk reaction to news that we all exhibit in one way or another, be it pleasant or unpleasant. For some people the reaction is always subtle and seems thought out. you wonder to yourself how calm, can this person be or how is it that they aren’t reacting to this situation or that situation?

I like to look at the people around me when things are happening to see how they are reacting to the situation/ taking in news. I tend to ask myself is there a wrong way to react or are our reactions dictated by society on how it should be? If so, does this reaction still remain genuine and pure?

For example, what if your immediate reaction is to laugh where others are shocked, sad or crying? does this make your initial reaction wrong? does it lead to questions and issues of mental health?

I know these are a lot of questions, and yet this is what I have been stewing on today. Have you thought about this same issue today? have you reacted the ”wrong” way recently or at some point in time?

please share your experience with me.

Thanks.

Blogging, Musings, Writing

Things That Have Made Me Happy This Month.

As most of you know, I just started blogging again. So blogging is definitely on the list of things that have made me very happy this month and I can’t wait to share more of myself, lessons learned, crafts, stories,  tips, DIY,  lifestyle and relationship tips to help you grow as an individual, blogger or business.

1.My Marriage.

A lot of people wonder how my husband and I do it, they always ask me questions on how we manage or cope with the distance and time apart. There are a ton of Ldr tips and advice that I have shared on my blog and that others have shared, but as with everything in life, you need to find what works for you. And that’s what my husband and I have done.  Anyone who knows my husband or I, knows that we spend a lot of time in communication. We call one another several times in a day, text, chat, email, video call one another and support one another with work and business also. It’s very important to keep up with your spouse and communicate effectively, plus you need a large dose of patience to be in a relationship and drum ”fulls” to be in an LDR.

Below are links to some tips, experiences, growth  and struggles that can help you in your LDR.

Ldr posts

sometimes it hurts and I write about it also. can you?

Some Poetry I wrote to help me cope and they might help you too or encourage you to write about it. ldr poems  A couple more ldr poems .

2.Family.

It’s been a joy visiting with family this month. I am one of those people who love seeing new places but never actually likes the process of going there. Well this applies to old places too. I love the idea of being somewhere, but I don’t actually want to get off my behind, sit in a car, train, ship, plane or even bike to get there. But if you ask me if I love to travel I would say yes! because my brain is interpreting it as an opportunity to see or be in a different or new place. So yes going to visit my family makes me very happy.

  1. Being part of a healthy discussion.

I love stimulating conversations and this month I have enjoyed being part of various such discussions. Because of a game I play, I have gotten to meet and enjoy chatting with a group of really awesome ladies and a young man. They are funny, smart, amazing and magical in their own way. Though a game brought us together, It’s grown to something resembling sisterhood instead. I am grateful for them and they make me happy too.

4.New Projects.

My friend and I are currently working on something that I shall be introducing you all to very soon, and working on this has got me all shades of emotional lol; Joy, laughter, annoyance, frustration (new things and the frustrations they bring) , happiness etc. This project has taught me a lot about myself and I am happy with the results. I have learned that I am patient, resourceful, resilient and very smart.

  1. Running My Business.

Making money isnt always easy or direct. It can be a rollercoaster of disappointments, hurt, anger, loss, gain and other things especially when you are just starting out. So be patient and keep moving because quitting isnt going to take you to your desired goal. And yet running my own business albiet very small and not always rewarding financially has its perks and I am enjoying them immensely. This makes me happy.

Through out the Month of February, there are so many experiences that I can draw on that have made me happy, but this will do for now. I just wanted to share a little part of my month with you and how some of these things have changed my life. This month might have not seemed all that great to you, but if you also take some time out to make a list of the good and happy times, you’ll be surprised to find out that its not as short as you think.

Take a moment to share the things that made you happy with me in the comment section below  😁☺😁

 

 

Musings, Writing

REKINDLING MY LOVE AND FINDING PURPOSE.

I have always loved writing. Growing up I was that child who talked a lot, sang a lot, wrote long essays, laughed a lot and made friends easily. But as I grew older, I still talked a lot but in doses and in select company. My writing grew into something I didn’t even know I had in me. I still sing and laugh and do all the stuff I enjoy doing, but not as often. My heart cries out from the need to write and express myself and yet I pick up the pen and talk myself out of it or draw a blank once pen hits paper.

And on the issue of friendships, I seem to have drifted away from them and sort of isolated myself. sometimes I miss it, sometimes I do not. yes it would be nice to have someone to hang out with and do stuff with but most of my friends do not live in the same city as I do and I haven’t particularly gone out of my way to make more. I guess sometimes I feel the efforts all on my side. Though I have never been the lonely type, so I am glad for that at least.

Alas, this post is about finding myself, purpose and love for the things I enjoy doing. I have started writing again and I am so happy about that. I have also started blogging again and not just posting pictures of my crafts and DIY which is something I am happy about. But the thing I am most happy about is making money doing the things I love.

I am being paid to write, create and develop content and also manage a couple social media pages. I never thought I would make money writing or blogging and yet it seems I am on my way to doing that and even more.

So I just want to encourage you to keep at it and never give up on your dreams. It might not look like it, but it’s there. You just have to keep on trying.

Musings

New Things And The Frustrations They Bring.

Quite a long title for what would probably be a very short post.

I love change, its not always easy and it takes a lot of adjusting to, but i don’t always mind it. For the past couple of weeks, my very good friend and I have been working on a project, but unfortunately its in an area that is a bit alien to us both and so this has been very challenging for us.

The thing that shocked us the most was the lack of help we received from those we thought we could count on. We got most of what we needed from the internet, information and instructions wise, but we needed clarification on certain things and everyone seemed to want to get paid or release the information in doses in order to get paid also.

I have nothing against wanting to make money or getting paid for your expertise and so on.

However, the word project might be a bit of a stretch and makes it sound like something big but really its a small pet project. Our Dilemma began with choosing a good hosting site and then plans and ‘html/ftp/WordPress’ control panel questions and how we know nothing about CPanel. you get the gist lol, we didn’t ask anyone to design a website or code for us, all we wanted was guidance on who and where to start. But anyways, sometimes its good to go through some situations because after much research and technical brain freeze, we were able to come to a decision and stick with one option while starting small and at our own pace.

OH well this turned out to be a mini rant after all 😂😅

Musings

Family Train Ride (The Experience)

train   google images.

We plastered on smiles as we got ready to be frozen in time with the shutter of the camera capturing our moment.

It’s quite a rare portrait you see and one I am glad to cherish for a lifetime, and yet the circumstances it was taken in were not as picturesque as the photo itself.

There we were after getting up at the crack of dawn and desperately searching for an available Uber at 5:00 am in the morning, we packed like our pants were on fire and made a dash for the train station in the dark.

As I sat there with my husband and sister in-law gazing out the window into the dark, quite and cold morning my mind was nothing like my surroundings. It raged in a storm of thoughts and I desperately tried to hold on to one for more than 5 seconds but my emotions wont let me as they ranged from anxiety of not getting any seats on the train due to the rush to getting stolen by the lone Uber driver as we sped down the lonely forest-like drive to the train station.

We made it there before 6:00 am and found that a long line had already been formed and yes my trepidation of not getting seats spiked up through the roof. I was not in the mood to travel to Kaduna by road especially that early in the morning and during the festive season to boot.

However, favor was on our side and we got numbers 170-172 (numbers were given out to keep track of the seats available on the train due to the large number of persons travelling at the time). We got to the ticketing counter and to our dismay and shock found out that the business class tickets we wanted were sold out and that our tickets were free because a telecommunications company had paid for all the seats on the train for that period and it was on a first come, first serve basis.

So yeah we got seats, free seats to boot even though they were ‘’The Seats’’ we wanted but they were better than nothing. We got on the train and left the station at 7:00am and the train was full at this point. With 4 stations along the way we could only hope the train wouldn’t be stopping to pick p more passengers but that hope was short-lived as more people got on and barely anyone getting off.

Suffice it to say the train was packed full with people standing in the isles and leaning on the seats trying to grab onto anything they could.

I discovered new smells, felt bad for my husband as he got leaned on, elbowed, push and whatnot.

All in all we got there in one piece and were very grateful to get off the train.  Had a great Christmas celebration with my husband’s family and forgot all about the horrors of the train ride with the first hugs from family. Now I can say it was totally worth it (but not back then lol)

Musings, Writing

Honest To God Writing.

As I type in this title, all I can think about is take me back!

Take me back to a time my thoughts did not need ink to flow inebriated, when it just flowed down in a rush like a broken faucet.

Plumbing

Take me back to the time of deep depths and bottomless wells. where my words would race down on paper leaving me baffled as to their origin.

I wanna swim the un-clogged pipe where my poetry stroked and backstroke(d) diving unhinged and unapologetic into the minds of those who dared to read my nakedness.

Take me to a time where I cared so much about not caring what you thought of my broken silence, where my words were unashamed and fiercely present.

I miss the intimate sharing

the mind sharpening

The exposing of souls through more than ”just words”.

Take me back.

 

 

Google.com images used

Healthy living, home

Bread Rolls.

Simple and easy bread rolls.

Make these in less than 5 mins.

INGREDIENTS

A loaf of sliced bread.

2 raw eggs

FILLINGS:-

Eggs :- boiled

Avocado

Veggies of your choice

Spices

Meat (hot dogs, sausages, beaf, chicken etc)

Have fun with it and add Ingredients of your choice.